Have you heard of toxic positivity? We all do it. And we all need to take a break away from it. We need to stop feeling ashamed for feeling a certain way. You are allowed to feel broken-hearted that you had to miss a trip you were looking forward to.
We are often told to hold back from sharing our good news or sad news because you are either gloating from our positivity or something negative in our lives. Told not to feel down because “it could have been so much worse” or “we know someone who has suffered more than us.” Right now the biggest shaming going on is about vising people while being safe, or going on a trip when you should be home. You don’t know what is going on in someone’s head or in their life. You don’t know whether they have been safe or not. You don’t really know.
To the ones trying to live their life. STOP. Stop feeling bad about yourself. Feel that sadness or pain of missing something OR someone OR be at peace knowing you have been safe while on a trip.
We are complex beings. We can be grateful for something and yet sad or mourn what we miss. We deserve to feel those feelings. We are allowed to know that we took precautions that needed to be taken. Can we stop the shaming and snubbing? Can we all just feel the feels and be there for others? Support other….comment with positivity over negativity. We are all hurting in our own ways.
With this said here are some things I that took place in 2020 I want to remember:
I learned to forgive and move on.
I mailed out more meaningful cards this year than in years past.
I sent people gifts that I knew would make them smile.
I found out just how handy my husband is.
Adam built us a garden and I picked veggies.
I helped friends in need. Because I had to slow down working I was able to do so.
I was able to read/listen to more books and podcasts.
I realized I can be ok with change.
I took time. Time to think. To be. To live. To breath.
I got angry about things happening in the world. And talked to friends about it not just posted it on a social platform.
I scrapbooked. I tried new hobbies.
I called my therapist. A lot.
I took control of my mental health.
I gave so many air hugs.
I learned how strong I really am.
I cried. A lot.
I missed my camera so much I found myself using it for personal photos. That hasn’t happened in years.
I got quality time with Adam.
I got to spend time with a handful of my favorite people.
Hot tubs make a great way to end a long day.
Deactivating my FB acct in July 2020 was the best thing I could do for myself all year.
Much love, Miranda